I thought this perhaps the best venue in which to express my own gratitude for the benefit her life has brought us all, as well as the personal benefit to my life that her friendship brought.
There are too many things to enumerate that can be said in her favour, so I shall add to the expressions of loss only my own personal angle on things, though I recognize, appreciate, and second all others as well.
Though perhaps a silly notion, I think it best to express this in the first person, on the off chance that some circumstance might permit you to peruse LJ postings still, and somehow I think that you would, if you could (and hey - surely if heaven is all it's cracked up to be, it has decent broadband).
Thank you, Tandra, for the benefit you have given me in my life. A fine friend, you have always had a warm smile for me, even when the end was neigh. Over the years that I have had the privilege of knowing you, I have always admired your strength, as well as your individuality. You taught me many things, perhaps not deliberately, but by virtue of your own strength, pride, and personality. Perhaps the most vital lesson of all was that I should be proud of myself, no matter what others might think of me. This has benefited me greatly in life, though it is a concept I still struggle with. In your memory, though, I shall press on with the application of such an ideal.
Some other readers may remember these events, some not, but I would like to thank you for some of the greatest moments in my history of interacting with friends, of course including yourself on these occasions.
-Of course, the Wright Bros. evening
-TMI night. Always good fun to seriously disturb people at neighbouring tables
-The day of your wedding
I am sure there are many more, but these come to mind foremost.
I should avoid rattling on extensively, but I thank you for the invaluable contribution you have made to my life, as well as the brightness you brought to this world with your presence. Wherever you may be now, farewell. You will have a pin in your possession, if such things can come along for the ride. It has been a number of wild and wonderful places - if you have the opportunity, please show it more.
Among the many hats you wore in life, you wore the one of support for me well. Attached is a photo that is generally representative of my memory of yourself, complete with hat.
Farewell, my friend.